ANOTHER VALENTINE TANTRUM

Dr. Meredith Grey: You know how when you were a little kid and you believed in fairy tales, that fantasy of what your life would be, white dress, prince charming who would carry you away to a castle on a hill. You would lie in bed at night and close your eyes and you had complete and utter faith. Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy, Prince Charming, they were so close you could taste them, but eventually you grow up, one day you open your eyes and the fairy tale disappears. Most people turn to the things and people they can trust. But the thing is its hard to let go of that fairy tale entirely cause almost everyone has that smallest bit of hope, of faith, that one day they will open their eyes and it will come true...


Well I don't know about fairytales and me I just don't have that in me..it's so classic..I mean when I was a kid I played with marbles, rubber bands, hide and seek and throwing slippers to that empty can and run as fast as you can to get that slipper again and get back in line. Well the thing is barbies have never been me, or disney fairytales nope I guess I have always been realistic even as a child. I thank myself for that. I've seen girlfriends go yankees over boyfriends who doesn't meet their cinderella and the prince needs. Or the saving Ranpunzel kind of feeling. I am more like Fiona and Shrek type of girl hehehe...!!! But Yeah I guess we all have our own ways to maintain the hope wether it's not thinking about it or fantasizing friday evening that prince charming will ride that white rose and might just rescue you for just one night.... I just like having things come as they go...well that's just me I guess...as long as I love and I'm loved that's the most important thing for me. the other things??? well you just gotta have to work that out together. At the end of the day faith is a funny thing. It turns up when you don't really expect it. It's like one day you realize that the fairy tale may be slightly different than you dreamed. The castle, well, it may not be a castle. And it's not so important happy ever after, just that its happy right now. See once in a while, once in a blue moon, people will surprise you , and once in a while people may even take your breath away.

VALENTINES AND ALL ITS TANTRUMS...

So first I must say HAPPY VALENTINES TO ALL

My day went something like this: nice morning cuddling with my boo...nice and easy breakfast at 10 am and followed on by lunch and a movie trip, late afternoon nap... woke up having my boo's arms around me, wondering is this all? I have to confess I'm a woman of questions especially when it comes to love but what I'm really about is decisions. I like making them and because I get excited to see the outcome of my decisions. When I decide it's hard to change my mind, when I make a decision I stick to it through every circumstances until I feel it's unfair then I let go. But when it comes to love it's really hard to be a stubborn and consistent person, this thing conquers all, disregard all personalities...and leave you there with a single beat in your heart yet you are happy. What is it really with love that even the smartest, the most genius man on earth can be turned into a fool or childish or even crazy.??? are we victims of it? the hearts the red and warth image of it? hhmmppp Later that day I watch sex and the city and here's one of Carries genuis quote ''I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love, the you, you love, well, that's just fabulous.''

A couple of hundred years ago, Benjamin Franklin shared with the world the secret of his success. Never leave that till tomorrow, he said, which you can do today. This is the man who discovered electricity. You think more people would listen to what he had to say. I don't know why we put things off, but if I had to guess, I'd have to say it has a lot to do with fear. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, sometimes the fear is just of making a decision, because what if you're wrong? What if you're making a mistake you can't undo? The early bird catches the worm. A stitch in time saves nine. He who hesitates is lost. We can't pretend we hadn't been told. We've all heard the proverbs, heard the philosophers, heard our grandparents warning us about wasted time, heard the damn poets urging us to seize the day. Still sometimes we have to see for ourselves. We have to make our own mistakes. We have to learn our own lessons. We have to sweep today's possibility under tomorrow's rug until we can't anymore. Until we finally understand for ourselves what Benjamin Franklin really meant. That knowing is better than wondering, that waking is better than sleeping, and even the biggest failure, even the worst, beat the hell out of never trying.

MY YEAR

THE OX Those born under the influence of the Ox are fortunate to be stable and persevering. The typical Ox is a tolerant person with strong character. Not many people could equal the resolution and fearlessness the Ox exhibits when deciding to accomplish a task or an objective. As we used this great creature long ago to plow the soil day after day, so do Ox people labor through their daily responsibilities either at work or at home without complaint or gripe. Oxen know they will succeed through hard work and sustained effort and find no truth or benefit in concocting get-rich-quick schemes. Years of the Ox Ox years are second in sequence and recur every twelve years. The Chinese New Year does not fall on a specific date, so it is essential to check the calendar to find the exact date on which each Ox year actually begins. THE SIGN OF THE OX Pragmatic and down-to-earth, Ox people are motivated to work hard and have no respect for lazy or careless people. Although they can be easily trusted and find it easy to put trust in others, they are not dependent on friends and family and would rather find an answer or a solution themselves than to ask these people for help or guidance. However, others can, without a doubt rely on Oxen, who are always honest and meticulous about their responsibilities. While they do not feel the need for many distant or acquaintance-oriented friendships, they value the strong bonds they share with their partners and families, and make close friends that last a lifetime. Though they are quite open-minded, once Ox people have made a decision about something, they rarely change it. This is a defining characteristic that can be seen as obstinacy, but it is actually the way an Ox learns to be strong, brave and straightforward. It is the way the Ox learned to take on tasks and responsibilities and how he learns to be reliable for others. Oxen are more comfortable with the well-known as opposed to the unfamiliar. Yet, beneath their unpretentious, tranquil exterior lies a heart of gold and a motivation to prosper. OXEN FACTS: People born in the Year of the Ox share certain characteristics. The Ox sign is an abbreviated way of characterizing that individual’s personality. Following are features associated with the sign of the Ox. Second in order, Chinese name—NIU, sign of industry Hour—1am-2:59am Month—January Western Counterpart—Capricorn CHARACTERISTICS Obstinate, Pouty, Truthful, Motivated, Friendly, Apathetic, Genuine, Quick-tempered IN YOUR ELEMENT The characteristics of the Ox sign are tempered by one of the five Chinese elements of Metal, Water, Wood, Fire and Earth overlaying a 5-year cycle of characteristics on the original 12-year cycle. THE METAL OX 1901 AND 1961 Metal Ox people work harder and more scrupulously than most people, including other Oxen. They always show a boldness and drive and will stop at nothing to achieve their goals. Like all Oxen, they are completely trustworthy and dependable, but they are not ones to display their emotions freely or openly. These Oxen have the strength of steel, with a will to match. Often, this strength and ruthless will make it difficult for them to identify with the feelings of others around them. However, an Ox is always willing to defend what he knows to be true and won’t give up until he has proven what he knows to be true. THE WATER OX 1913 AND 1973 The Water element gives the Ox a flexibility and liberty. Water Oxen are as hard-working as anyone, and particularly systematic, and are probably the quickest-thinking of the other elemental Oxen. They are much more prepared than the other Oxen to recognize the pints of view of others and to think about their ideas and suggestions, making them easy to work with in a business environment. They generally consider the feelings of others which makes them good roommates or partners. In addition, their sincerity and patience ensures their popularity with friends, peers and family. THE WOOD OX 192S AND 1985 Understanding and fair, these are the least unyielding of the Oxen and the most apt to change and accept new ideas. A more liberal attitude gives them the ability to appreciate the value of being a part of a team, and other members of the team respect the high principles of the Wood Ox. They are particularly self-confident giving them an air of unspoken authority. This characteristic means that Wood Oxen are often chosen as leaders or spokespeople. They also have a shorter fuse than other Ox people, and are more likely to be outspoken or to stand up in a crowd to be heard. These Oxen are quite devoted to those they love and make strong and affectionate friends and relations. THE FIRE OX 1937 AND 1997 Being born under the fire sign gives these Oxen dynamic qualities. Their leadership capabilities are tremendous, and they have to desire to be in charge so they generally hold positions of status and importance at work and in the community. They are capable of being extremely objective, but these Oxen can display hot tempers, throw temper-tantrums or be unusually impulsive in their decision-making. This can be dangerous because it may cause them to brush aside valuable ideas, discarding them before actually considering the implications associated with doing so. Even so, they tend to be loyal people. Devoutly dedicated to their family. THE EARTH OX 1949 AND 2009 The most reliable and diligent Oxen belong to this collection of Oxen. The Earth element balances many of their negative characteristics. These Oxen are show good judgement, a good characteristic for successful financial dealings. Other people tend to look up to Earth Oxen because of their reliability, sincerity and their modest ambitions. They are willing to tackle the workload when it become overbearing for others and are loyal and compassionate with family and friends. HEALTH AND HOME HEALTH People born under the sign of the Ox usually have strong codes and work ethics. This can lead to a tendency to be a workaholic, and they should make an effort to relax more. Many Oxen work in relatively stationary occupations, and would benefit from squeezing a little exercise into their routines. They are prone to bone and joint problems - especially the knees - and must pay special attention to these areas. However, Ox people are usually strong and robust, and, according to ancient wisdom, should be blessed with long lives. AT HOME WITH THE OX The Ox’s home is his castle, a place where he finds relaxation and peace from the everyday hustle and bustle of his career or responsibilities. This is where he spends time with his friends and loved ones. The Ox person doesn’t put a lot of effort into making his house stylish, for he would much rather be comfortable while reading the newspaper or watching television. He doesn’t spend much time indoors anyway—he wants to be outside, smelling the air, planting gardens and trees, which will usually be evidenced by the botanical literature you will find on his bookshelf or on his coffee table. Ox people prefer to live in the country. The Ox generally prefers to decorate his home with nature’s colors, i.e. golds, greens and oranges. However, since the Ox is associated with January, winter colors might be more appealing. CAREER AND FINANCE THE OX ON THE JOB Able, ethical and aware, colleagues of the Ox will marvel at their methodical approach and will depend on their eyes for detail. Oxen are not phased by routines, probably because they are so well-organized. They are better-suited for specialized positions and prefer to work in large companies. They do, however, work best when they work alone since they can be unhappy when participating in a large group. MONEY AND THE OX Oxen believe in security, and thus don’t usually take wild risks or financial gambles. They are meticulous about spending money and work hard to ensure they will be able to retire comfortably. OX CAREERS Those born in the Year of the Ox share the same kinds of goals and objectives in life. The occupations best suited for the Ox are listed below: OX MAKE EXCELLENT: Painters Interior designers Carpenters Mechanics Horticulturists Engineers Draftsmen Architects Army Officers Managers Quarry Workers Academics Archeologists Osteopaths Physioherapists Bankers Investment brokers Real estate agents CONGENIAL BUSINESS PARTNERS Whether Oxen are compatible with their business partners depends on whether their signs are harmonious or antagonistic to those of their business partners. Considering the congruity of their own characters and the characters of their business partners can also be very useful. Rats Ruled By Benefit From Are Antagonistic to Metal Earth Roosters Fire Tigers Water Metal Rats Earth Horses Wood Water Pigs Metal Sheep Fire Wood Oxen Water Dogs Earth Fire Snakes Wood Monkeys Leisurely activities and pleasures LIKES AND DISLIKES The Ox is a lover of stability, a great traditionalist and a homemaker. Rarely would you expect an Ox person to be an extrovert pleasure-seeker. They are happiest in the peace of their own home territory. Oxen Like: Color Preference: Violet Gems and Stones: Jade, Emerald, Moss-Agate, Lapis-Lazuli Suitable Gifts: Kitchen accessories, gardening and planting books, cookbooks, bonsai trees Hobbies and Pastimes: Body-Building, Baking, Gardening, Listening to music, Sewing Oxen Dislike: Making small talk, foolish games, feeling insecure THE OX VACATION Actually, Oxen are homebodies, preferring the lure of the sofa or the garden to extravagant vacations far away from home. They are very happy just staying at home, spending their summer vacations catching up with the hobbies and pastimes that their workloads have prevented them from taking on previously. Whether they are planting flower beds, or enjoying a sunset on their newly-built front porch, it is all quite satisfying to them. If they do decide to take a trip, you can bet they’ll head for the hills to do some hiking or rock climbing. FRIENDS AND ENEMIES Oxen are not the most sociable people and tend not to mix easily in social gatherings. Instead, they would rather be at home, enjoying their privacy and anonymity. Unlike the Rat, the Monkey, or the Rooster, the Oxen tend not to have a little black book, preferring a few very loyal friends to a large network of acquaintances. Oxen do know how to shine at social occasions, but more often than not they dislike small talk. These are wary people, unlikely to ignite friendships on the spur of the moment. They like to take their time and get to know people before disclosing themselves fully. A happy, solid relationship with their partner and children is the most satisfying goal they could accomplish. OX PARENTS AND CHILDREN Oxen make very protective parents. People born under this sign will unselfishly work their fingers to the bone to provide a thriving, happy and secure home where their children feel safe. In return, however, the Ox mother and father demand that their youngsters be courteous, respectful and polite. In comparison to other parents, Oxen can seem a bit authoritarian but they are conventional and believe in instilling within their children a belief system. A good education is especially important and by utilizing their educational opportunities, Oxen children can make their lives and relationships with their parents a lot easier. Ox parents expect their children to listen, behave and be attentive while they are at school. Showing rebellion is the fastest way to be punished in the Oxen household. Oxen, especially female Oxen, tend to start their families early on and completely immerse themselves in caring for and parenting their children. This can lead to dependent children and can pose a problem for parents who are trying to teach their children to become self-reliant. THE OX INFANT AND CHILD Children born under the sign of the Ox are quiet and amenable. They develop into solid, independent, resourceful children, and are happiest when left to entertain themselves. If interrupted, provoked or forced to do something against their will, they are likely to pout or show themselves, despite their audience. Generally, Ox-born children are shy, and for many, childhood is quite lonely partly due to them liking to be alone and partly because their siblings are usually much older or younger than they. At school, subjects with a constructive appeal will be of the most interest to them. They like art and music as well. They are creative children who enjoy sports too. They are respectful, polite, hard-working, children…something their parents take very seriously. OXEN PARENT/CHILD KINSHIPS Some parents click immediately with their children and some find they will never have a close relationship no matter how hard they try to make it happen. Following are the compatibility ratings between Oxen parents and their children. Oxen with Under the same roof Compatibility Rating Rat noble parent, respectable child **** Ox pretty much equal *** Tiger not much understanding * Rabbit happy at home *** Dragon some problems to sort out ** Snake on similar planes *** Horse little compromise * Sheep too sensitive * Monkey a lot of fun together **** Rooster solid relationship **** Dog not much interaction * Pig essentially harmonious *** COMPATIBILITY RATINGS: *uphill struggle **some complications ***easy bonding ****on the same wavelength Lovers and spouses THE OX LOVER Oxen dislike chit-chat. They don't have fun at parties and as aforementioned, don’t have a ton of friends. They are not very sociable and would rather be spending their time at home with their families. When the Ox is in love, he does not confirm his feelings verbally, preferring to show you how he feels rather than tell you. An Ox will take a long time to decide if you are the right match for him because Oxen hate change, and want to find someone who is ready to embark upon a stable marriage. Oxen never rush into anything and are not flirtatious people. Once they have committed to you they will usually be faithful and expect reciprocation of their honorable actions. MARRIAGE Unfortunately, many Ox marriages do fall apart after a couple of years, possibly because the Ox is too dominant or inflexible. Perhaps it's because, Oxen tend to place blame on everyone but themselves. But if an Ox fortunate, and has chosen wisely, the couple can build and maintain a close-knit family to which the Ox will completely devote himself. THE OX LOVE PARTNER Oxen are strong, silent, reliable people who sometimes take for granted that their relationship is a partnership and that they make not always be the dominant figure. Other Animals may find them quite stubborn and overbearing. Chinese horoscopes are very specific about which partnerships have the potential to be successful in love and in business. Yet, though destiny can point us in the right direction, we must still make all efforts to maintain loving relationships. Following is a brief description of how an Ox will affect a relationship with other Animal signs. PARTNERS IN LOVE Ox*Rat Really good sex, but you’ll better serve each other as an affair. Marriage isn’t a good idea. Ox*Ox A solid partnership, but a wee bit boring. Ox*Tiger You are completely drawn to each other but headed for a dead end. Ox*Rabbit As lovers you’ll have a solid, content marriage. Ox*Dragon Give-and-take is not your forte and you are both more stubborn than the other. Ox*Snake You are headed for happiness! Ox*Horse Better in business than in bed. Ox*Sheep You may be phyiscally attracted to each other, but there’s not much substance here. Ox*Monkey If you can make it work, you’re destined for happiness and a lot of fun! Ox*Rooster Sexually stimulating, passionate and spontaneous…this should be a good fit. Ox*Dog You probably aren’t truly comfortable with each other…there’s a reason for that. Not much in common. Ox*Pig Passion and similar opinions destine you for a successful marriage. Love Partners at a Glance Oxen with Tips on Togetherness Compatibility Rat similar appreciation *** Ox strong, but apathetic ** Tiger completely different attitudes * Rabbit delicate and loving *** Dragon love at first sight, then stalemate * Snake Majestic **** Horse too argumentative * Sheep No way * Monkey okay, but no spark ** Rooster Wonderful **** Dog Doubtful, but there’s hope ** Pig worth trying ** COMPATIBILITY RATINGS: *dispute **keep working at it ***intense sexual attraction ****angelic EAST MEETS WEST ARIES OX Aries Oxen are goal-oriented and attain success by persevering. They charge through life and do not let opposition slow them down. In love they are not subtle and like to be the dominant figure in the relationship. Only a strong, trustworthy partner will make this a lasting partnership. LIBRAN OX These Oxen are good employers and employees because they are easy to get along with and listen to what you have to say. They like to keep the peace and don’t like to rock the boat. They are always trying to achieve perfection personally and romantically. TAUREAN OX Solid, yet flexible, Taurean Oxen are probably the most steady and most laid-back of all the Oxen. Obstinate and persistent, they get what they want by plodding on. SCORPIO OX Determination and strong will characterize the Scorpio Ox. These Oxen will strive and do whatever they must in order to reach their goal. They are intense lovers, but you’ll never be able to read their emotions because they keep them tucked away. GEMINI OX These Oxen have strength of purpose. They are outgoing and like to be around other people. They are funny and sociable, use these traits to excel in business. SAGITTARIAN OX These Oxen have Sagittarian vision. They are born with luck and are prone to take unnecessary risks. They are quick to read a situation and use their talents to accumulate great wealth and status. CANCERIAN OX Sensitivity and motivation ensure that Cancerian Oxen develop highly-creative skills. At home their family are essential to their happiness and well-being. CAPRICORN OX Capricornian Oxen are made of true resolute. A sustained effort allows them to achieve a very comfortable way of life. They are conservative and responsible and will work long hours to provide their loved ones with security and comfort. LEONINE OX This combination produces leaders who feel the need to be in control. They also take themselves seriously and throw themselves into any project they under take. They are happiest with an adoring partner who will love them completely. AQUARIAN OX This duality combines a light spirituality with a predictability quite unlike anything you’ve ever seen. They contradict each other in a way, but value free-thinking and intelligence. VIRGO OX These individuals are practical but they can lose sight of what’s important and can fuss over small details. Unmatched in honesty and ethics, they are responsible and respected. PISCEAN OX Sensitivity influences the toughness of the Ox to produce a delicate personality, with unlimited creativity and perspicacity. Piscean Oxen are artistic and would rather work behind the scenes than be a visible member of the team.

A new beginning...

Well so I'm back blogging....
and I've really missed it.
well so here's where I start....

About me

I'm Moya a single mom 2 great kids, Gabrielle Angela going 4 yrs old and Ashley Jeila going 2 yrs old...Just moved back to my home sweet home the typhoon free city Davao City...Philippines by the way. hehehe!!! By the way I lived in Denmark with my kids.

here's my angels
Moya..