If your last hair-raising deed in the bedroom was to stay up to watch late-night TV, our sinsational suggestions just might make you drop the remote, which is a good thing. 'Cause, hon, to have the best sex, you've just got to be a little bad. Truly amazing erotic action can happen only when both partners are willing to take risks. That means leaving the Mary Poppins primness behind and strutting your stuff into titillating new territory. "When you go beyond your limits, you discover hidden turn-ons and new sensations," says Catherine Liszt, coauthor of When Someone You Love Is Kinky. Plus, you get the blood-pumping jolt that comes from being bolder, ballsier, and more brazen in bed. Your willingness to explore your sexual boundaries will also build intimacy and trust between you and your partner. Here, the seven sexy sins you should, make that must, commit.
Dare to...Bust Out a New Move
Nothing makes the bedroom buzz with erotic electricity like debuting a dirty act you've always been curious about, especially if you think it's kinda kinky. Spontaneously slipping a novel technique into your lusty lineup will elevate an ordinary sex session into a reckless, fasten-your-seat-belt romp, according to Eve Hogan, author of Intellectual Foreplay. It will also open your eyes to erogenous zones you never knew you had. And because you can't anticipate how your man will react when you, say, pin him down on the kitchen table for impromptu passion (though our very informal survey says the most likely response will be some stuttering, a gargantuan grin, and a showering of praise and appreciation), you'll get an extra jolt of excitement. And his heart will race just wondering what could possibly be next on your sexual agenda. Surprises to spring on him: Tackle him in the shower for some one-foot-on-the-soap-dish dirty time, or reenact a Sex and the City scene that gave you a shiver.
Dare to...Booty-Call Him at Work
Dial your boyfriend when you know he's slaving away at his office and purr into the phone that you'll be at home, waiting for some noontime nooky or ready to start your own private happy hour just around quitting time. Calling in a quickie as soon as your mouth waters for it is all about instant gratification. "The idea that you're willing to drop everything else to have sex is exhilarating," Laura Corn, author of The Great American Sex Diet: Where the Only Thing You Nibble on...Is Your Partner! explains, "because you're acting purely on animal impulse." Making the bold, determined move to get the lovin' you want fast will have you on passionate pins and needles and him defying time, traffic, and yellow lights to get home and put out the fire in your pants.
Dare to...Put the Porn On
If the mere thought of renting a porno feels smutty, then it's definitely time to pick one up. From the spine-tingling moment you venture into the adult section of the video store to the second you surprise your guy with a skin flick and wait breathlessly for his randy response, taking the plunge into porn will add fiery fervor to your real-life bump and grinds. Like catching an eyeful of your randy neighbors mid-nooky, observing overheated couples and their this-close thrusting onscreen feels totally taboo. For Christine,* 26, just knowing her boyfriend was getting off on her watching made her quiver. "The first time we rented a porno, I was immediately engrossed," she recalls. "But then I realized Dave couldn't take his eyes off me. Keeping my eyes glued to the screen while Dave watched my reactions made me feel naughty. Soon after, we were having sex so hot that the porn looked tame in comparison." If you're less than bold about shopping for a sex flick, drive to a store in another neighborhood, shop online, or go to a place that stocks X-rated movies on the shelves, rather than behind the counter where you have to request them.
*Names have been changed.
*Names have been changed.
Dare to...Pump Up the Dirty Dialogue
We all know that guys dig verbal action in bed, but whispering those lusty lines in public where anyone can overhear you will turn his knees (and yours) to jelly. While watching a stuffy play or at a family reunion, squeeze his inner thigh and tell him exactly what you'll do to him later — right down to the tongue trick you'll tease him with and the lace thong you'll wear. Your drive home will be deliciously thrilling. And because we're programmed to think of men as the bearers of bawdy come-ons, mouthing off to him is liable to give both of you heart palpitations, says Corn. "Plus, because you're in public and you can't satisfy your cravings," she notes, "you'll see, smell, taste, and hear nothing but sex — and be burning with desire by the time you're finally alone."
Dare to...Create an Alter Ego
Role-playing is one of the best ways to add risky razzle-dazzle to your romps. Swap your normally shy side for a more wicked persona or become uncharacteristically virginal for the night — developing a steamy new you helps you shed your inhibitions and frees you to do anything you damn well please. "Showing your partner parts of your sexual personality he's never seen before is a little scary, but that's exactly what makes it so sexy," says Liszt. Suddenly, it's not you in bed with your boyfriend but an oversexed policewoman or a shy cheerleader. And she, er, you can take your mattress mambo to a place you've never been before — and beyond. You can start by identifying your role with a few lusty lines ("You didn't behave, and now it's time for detention"). Or ease him into your new act with provocative hints ("Someone else might be joining us in the bedroom tonight") and clues (a pair of stilettos in his closet or a studded collar in his briefcase).
Dare to...Leave the Lights On
Resist the urge to lunge for the lamp switch the minute he starts stroking your thigh, and get busy with the bulbs still burning. True, stripping down to your Skivvies under 60 watts may be terrifying, but you might be surprised by how much you end up loving the spotlight. With every touch, lick, and hip swivel on display, any sex act will turn into a daring feat of exhibitionism. If bright lights make you run for cover, install a dimmer switch or try blindfolding yourself the first time to give you the thrill of putting on a peep show without the reminder that he can see all. "Since most of us are used to lights-out sex," says Corn, "watching his face, eyes, and body responding to you adds an exhilarating element to your bedroom grooves."
Dare to...Make Him Your Love Slave
Slip on your power panties and command your boyfriend to give you the pleasure performance of your choice. Telling him how you want to be manhandled might feel high-wire-act treacherous, but it's guaranteed to give you both shivers. We're guessing he'll love being bossed around, and you know that when he follows your dirty demands, you're in for the ride of your life. Being vividly verbal also shows him that you burn for amazing sex as much as he does. "Sex with my girlfriend is intense because she's fearless enough to ask for exactly what she wants," says Gary, 29. "She's not weighed down by inhibitions, so I don't hold back my desires." Start by tapping into what tops your sexual wish list — this will make it easier to picture yourself commanding it. Then, when you're feeling frisky, look him in the eyes and firmly tell him to, say, remove your undies and run his tongue south from your navel to your pleasure zone. No doubt he'll rise to the occasion.
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